What is love?

Can there be a special "the one" for every single person in this world? Can every individual, if tried hard enough, find their very special person which fits them like a bowl stacked upon another? OR is there no such thing as the perfect person? That no matter how close two individuals are, they are bound to have disagreements...?

If you love someone, and that someone loves you... BUT you have differing opinions on certain issues regarding matters of personality such as you disliking the way he smells his socks in the morning before he wears them. Your bf grew up smellin his socks, it is as innate in him as the air he breathes. However, knowing you don't like it, he seriously changes for you and in this change, he has becomed someone else, someone not him. Someone different whom he is not, but you want him to be.

Is that love? Or does that mean that you two were never meant for each other?

But of course, in this world, there could be a woman who enjoys watching the way her bf smells his socks.. Would that woman then be more appropriate for him? Because that way, he can always stay the way he wants and be happy.. Then what is love? Is it about being happy? If being happy requires you not to stray from who you are, and no one in this world has the perfect person whom they have need to change for... meaning everyone who's in a relation must at least change something, does that mean that no one in the history of the world has ever been in love?

Tsk, tis boggles me.

So if we can safely say that no one in this world is perfect for the other person(even if you like the way he smells his socks, you don't like the way he lick his shoes), that means that to be truly in love, you must change at least something for if you don't change and remain the way you are, after months of smellin socks, the girl could just lose it and break up wif u anyway.

OR don't change at all and hope that the girl will be conditioned to seein you take a whiff of ur socks everyday.

OR the very common contemporary method: compromise. He changes this, you change that. You put up with it, he puts up with that.

However, this very frequently used tactic requires one to at least change a little of himself/herself. And now you're becoming someone you're not. You're changing into someone whom she loves, but you don't.

SO what is love? Is it then the act of sacrificing oneself to be another? Or does the change not signify anything, are the changes just the side effect of being in love..., with no harm done?

But no, one cannot change and say that they've not. So how about a differnt kind of compromise? Smell socks every odd days only? Will that work? WIll that maintain that you've not changed to something you're not BUT good news is at the same time you're still at least making ur gf happy, even if it's on the even days only?
How, how how?

So basically the ONLY way to not change and still be in love is for the other side to take you for who you are, even if she hates ppl who smells socks from the bottom of her deep heart. Will dat work, now? But if you look at it from her view, she's becoming someone she's not. She has to tolerate you and your actions even though she detests it as much as she detests anything else..... is that fair for her? ORRRRR does it just mean, that you two were never meant for each other? Will dat solve the problem?

Hmm. Headache again.

Please don't think I'm a miserable sot.